Survey For An Unfaithful Spouse Who Left the Marriage Following the Affair:

At what point did you regret having the affair?
- Select One - Always Within 3 months after it started Within 6 months after it started Within a year More than a year after it started Never

At what point did you regret leaving the marriage?
- Select One - Always Within 3 months after it started Within 6 months after it started Within a year More than a year after it started Never

Did you plan to have an affair?
- Select One - Yes No

Did you plan to leave your marriage before the affair?
- Select One - Yes No

Did you plan to leave your marriage once the affair began?
- Select One - Yes No

What could your former spouse have done differently to affect a different outcome?

During the affair, did you believe that you and your spouse would reconcile at some point?
- Select One - Yes No

If yes, for how long after the affair began did you have that belief?
- Select One - Less than a month Up to six months Up to a year One to five years Still believe we will reconcile more than five years later

Did you or do you want to reconcile with your former partner?
- Select One - Yes No

If yes, what stopped you or is stopping you from doing so?

Did influential people in your life confront you about your affair and ask you to stop?
- Select One - Yes No

If yes, how did that affect your decision to continue with the affair?

If no, do you think, looking backwards, it might have made a difference in your actions?
- Select One - Yes No

Do you believe people looking at you from outside, during the affair,
knew what was really going on in your head and your heart at that time?
- Select One - Yes No

If no, what didn't they know?

Do you believe people looking at your life now understand the impact the affair had on you?
- Select One - Yes No

If no, what don’t they know?

Did you marry your affair partner?
- Select One - Yes No

If yes, are you still married?
- Select One - Yes No

How would you describe your marriage?
- Select One - Very happy, couldn't be better Happy, but a bit bumpy Good days and bad days - about equal Mostly bad days Terrible Planning to leave

If you did not marry your affair partner, why didn't you?

If you could send one message to your former spouse or
to the world about the reality of an affair, what would it be?

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